You said yes! You’ve set your wedding date and now it’s time to decide who you want standing by your side on your special day. Your wedding party is there to support you, not only on your wedding day, but on the days leading up to your wedding. Choosing who will stand up with you on such an important day can be overwhelming, so here are our top tips to help make the decision easier!
1. Choose Who You Are Closest To, Not Who You Feel Obligated To Ask
One of the most important pieces of advice when choosing your bridal party, is to make sure everyone you choose is someone who you are close with. They should be your favorite people who you couldn’t imagine your day without. Don’t ask someone to be in your wedding just because they asked you, and you feel obligated to return the favor.
2. Consider The Size Of Your Wedding
Keep in mind the size of your wedding when deciding how many people will stand up with you. If you are having a relatively small, intimate wedding you will want to keep your wedding party fairly small as well, with a recommendation of no more than 4 on each side. If your wedding is larger in size you could decide to have up to a dozen members in your party. Remember that the more people you ask, the more details there will be to organize and schedules to work around.
3. Think Of The Future
Ask yourself “will we still be friends 10, 20, 50 years from now?” If you can’t picture them being a part of your life for years to come, should they really be in your wedding party?
4. Set Your Expectation & Be Upfront
When you ask your friends and family to be in your wedding party, make sure you lay out your expectations for involvement right off the bat. Be sure they are aware of the time commitment you expect, level of involvement when it comes to helping with planning, as well as costs they should expect. With that being said, don’t expect everyone to say yes. If they don’t think they will be able commit to your set out expectations or financially can’t afford the cost of being a bridesmaid or groomsmen, don’t hold it against them. It will be best to get this out in the open right away.
5. Make The Decision As A Couple
Last but not least, make the decision as a team. Have a discussion together of who each of you want to be a part of this special day. Don’t feel the need to have a perfectly even amount of men and women standing with you. You don’t want to be choosing someone just for the purpose of evening out sides. You will just need to get a bit creative when it comes to the processional.
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