Tips for Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

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Although we may never tire of the traditional vows – there is just a romance to using the same words as so many others have for centuries – your love story is unique, and writing your own vows adds that special personal touch to your ceremony. However, it’s not always easy to get all the feelings from your heart down on a piece of paper to share in front of everyone. Here are 5 tips to help you write your own vows.

1. Make Sure Everyone Is On The Same Page

First, talk to both your fiancé and officiant and make sure they are both okay with personalized wedding vows. Once it’s agreed upon, discuss how you’d like your vows to sound. Maybe you want them to be more romantic than humorous, or serious over casual? While you are at it you should ask your S.O. a couple of questions:

  • Will you write your vows together or apart?
  • Will they be completely different or maybe you’ll make the same promises to one another at the end, similar to traditional vows?
  • Will you share them with one another or keep them a secret until the ceremony?

2. Make Promises

Why have you chosen to spend the rest of your life with this person? What does this marriage mean to you? These are some questions you should ask yourself when writing your vows. Reflect on the good times, but consider all the low times you and your partner may have overcome in your relationship as well. Both your fiancé and guests want your vows to be real, so make sure your promises are meaningful to your relationship. You want to show that love is not simply a feeling but a choice, and that you and your partner are choosing to love one another.

3. Look For Inspiration

Expressing your feelings is no easy task. Gather books, poems, quotes and examples of other wedding vows to help you find the right wording for your vows. If you feel that Shakespeare or Taylor Swift said it best, it’s okay to borrow their words.

4. Be Yourself

Don’t feel the pressure to write something that sounds professionally done. Speak from your heart and do your best to de­scribe your emotions. Take the time to think about the person you’ve become because of your fiancé and put that into words. Both your fiancé and guests will appreciate how real you are being with them.

5. Dress Up Your Vows

You may think that having your vows down on paper is enough, but consider how they may they look when they are pulled out of your pocket or purse. Protect your vows by rewriting them in a notebook. This also allows for your vows to become a keepsake after the wedding, and maybe even reread for a vow renewal.

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Honoring Loved Ones On Your Wedding Day

A wedding is a time to celebrate, but sometimes not everyone who you wish to celebrate with can be there. Honoring loved ones that have passed can become an important part of your big day. Gone but never forgotten, make your memorial just for you or for everyone in attendance to enjoy.

Carry their images with you

Whether you pin their photos to your bouquet, add them in your cufflinks, or wear a locket with their picture in it, you can take comfort in knowing that they are right there with you. HonoringLovedOnes_2 HonoringLovedOnes_1
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Include a flower for them in your bouquet

Have a single flower in your bouquet just for them. Whether it’s their favorite flower or just a different color than the others, this subtle touch could mean the world to you and any that knew them.

Reserve them a seat

Others may not know who this seat is for, but you will, and that’s all that matters. Place a single flower or a personal item from this person on the seat. When you look at the seat, you can’t help but remember them.

Write them into your vows/toasts

Incorporate special speeches in honor of your loved ones during the ceremony and/or reception. This is a great way to share some good memories with everyone.

Lighting a candle

A single candle on an entryway table or lighting the candle during your ceremony can be a special moment of remembrance that all can appreciate. HonoringLovedOnes_3
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Play their favorite song

During the reception, have your DJ/band play their favorite song with a special dedication to them. A thoughtful gesture in which anyone can join in by getting on the dance floor, or just by enjoying the song from their seat.

Offer a special favor

Send wedding guests off with a token inspired by your late loved one. You can even include a sign to explain the favor.

Make a donation

Depending on how they passed, you may want to set up a donation in their memory to help fund further research. Or maybe you just want to donate to a charity you know they supported.

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Top 5 Expert Tips For Creating A Whimsical Wedding Ceremony

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When it comes to wedding ceremonies, classic tends to be the style of choice. Wedding planner and Weddingstar Ambassador, Rebecca Chan, created a quirky and fun ceremony inspiration to encourage brides to embrace their fun-loving side! Here are her top 5 tips for pulling off a whimsical, yet elegant wedding ceremony

1. Bring The Outdoors In

Larger than life artisan paper flowers combined with garlands of natural greenery and glimmering gold lanterns provide an ultra-fun nod to the outdoors.

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2. Welcome Your Guests

Greet your guests with a playful welcome table sure to grab their attention. The giant blush-toned XO letters are topped with a decorative display featuring an ornamental birdcage and a sweet chalkboard message of thanks.

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Shop similar birdcages and chalkboards at weddingstar.com

3. Glam Up The Rings

Beautiful small-scale boxes help glam up the presentation of the all-important wedding rings. Nestled among luxurious blossom petals in a customized acrylic or shimmering rose gold jewelry box, the look is so pretty and a modern classic in the making.

 

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4. It’s All In The Details

Incorporate a mix of modern with vintage elements. This will create a layered effect that feels romantic with touches of whimsy.

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5. Dreamy Accents

Incorporate a key element in your ceremony, like this dreamy vintage bicycle. Designed for use as a photo backdrop, this charming vignette captures the essence of this style perfectly – romantic, fun and definitely not boring.

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Credits:

Styling: Rebecca Chan Weddings & Events

Photography: Rhythm Photography

XO Table, paper flowers, aisle runner and balloons: Ettridges

Vintage Bike, window shutters, ladder and bird cages: Southern Charm Vintage Rentals

Calligraphy: Ink & Jo

Birch Arch: Chuppah.ca

Flowers and garland: Fete Boutique

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Style Spotlight: Inspired By Travel

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Looking for the perfect way to combine your passion for travel into your wedding décor? Our Ambassador, Leona Morelock has done just that. She takes travel inspired wedding decor to a whole new level in this shoot. Use Leona’s suggested … Continue reading 

How To Create The Look: Industrial Chic

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Exposed beams and bricks along with textured finishes make a great starting space. By applying a modern aesthetic to an industrial setting you can reinvent any space for the ultimate industrial chic look. Just let your creativity flow; play with … Continue reading 

New Ceremony Must-Have: The Wedding Wand

Today we are excited to feature a product that is a ceremony must have! The Wedding Wand is a beautiful addition to your ceremony ritual and is an alternative to the sand ceremony or unity candle. It is a beautiful way to hold on to all that is important now and for your future together. It is about the love two people share and the desire to never let go of the precious gift they have found together.

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During the ceremony the couple will each hold their end of the wand as the officiant speaks.

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The Wedding Wand comes complete with a stand, allowing you to put it on display for all to see. This wonderful item will be a permanent decorative piece in your home. Not only to encase your marriage certificate, but as a daily reminder of the importance of the vows that were spoke on that unforgettable day.

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Engraved in the wand you will find words that may be contained in real vows. There is also a spot for personalization to be added, with the bride and groom’s initials or monogram.

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The vow certificate can be stored in the wedding wand after the ceremony.

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FROM THE CREATOR OF THE WEDDING WAND

The Wedding Wand is a must-have for any ceremony, regardless of religion or background. It is about the love two people share and the desire to never let go of the precious gift they have found together. Created by a woman to immortalize a wonderful love and honor the memory of her late spouse, this ceremony addition touches the very heart of what is most important, the unending love between two people. This wonderful item will be a permanent decorative piece in your home. Not only to encase your marriage certificate, but as a daily reminder of the importance of the vows that were spoken on that unforgettable day. The Wedding Wand is a beautiful way to hold on to all that is important now and for your future together.

Style Spotlight: Whimsical Vintage

While we love the look of an outdoor ceremony, sometimes it’s not really feasible. So today, our talented Ambassador, Rebecca Chan, is showing us that even if you can’t have an outdoor ceremony, that doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice on style. And here are the pictures to prove it!

From Rebecca:

In Toronto, Canada, we dream of beautiful outdoor ceremonies just like the rest of us but we don’t always have the best weather for it (especially in the cold winter months!). Sometimes what works outdoors doesn’t always translate to something beautiful when indoors.

I designed this styled shoot to give inspiration to brides who are hosting an indoor ceremony, with touches of vintage inspiration and fun, whimsical details for a memorable guest experience. Sip, sip, hooray!

Whimsical, vintage wedding ceremony table set up
Flowers in clear bottle vases on a pile of vintage books. Handwritten chalkboard sign in vintage gold frame.
Close up of ceremony table set up with floral garlands, bottle vases and vintage books.

featured above: Vases: Clear Glass Bottle Vase Set | Riser: Vintage Inspired Wooden Box | featured below: Aisle Runner: Modern Fairy Tale | Vase: Square Large and Small | Candle: Round Floating

Fairytale personalized printed wedding ceremony aisle runner. Clear square vases at different heights with floating water candles.
White wedding cake table with champagne flutes and cake topper.
Best Day Ever pink acrylic wedding cake topper. Adorable miniature glass bell jar wedding favor with desserts inside.
Personalized printed glass flutes with best day ever logo.

featured above: Cake Topper: Acrylic Best Day Ever in Pink | Favor: Miniature Glass Bell Jar | Stemware: Classic Toasting Flute | featured below: Tag: Vintage Travel Shipping Tag | Charm: Heart Shaped Antique Key

Whimsical vintage seating chart with calligraphy on chalkboard in gold frame. Close up of seating escort cards with vintage key and luggage tag.
Wedding wishing well guest book signing table.
His and her personalized fabric wedding vow books. Personalized cards for wedding wishing well with gold and diamond pens.
Glass vintage jewelry box gift or wedding ring holder.

featured above: Vow Books: Charcoal and Ivory | Wishing Well Cards: Aqueous | Pen: Clear Diamond | Ring Box: Vintage Inspired Glass Jewelry Box

See wedding style spotlights + more in our Weddingstar Magazine available here or on a newsstand near you.

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Credits:

Planner and Styling: Rebecca Chan Weddings and Events / Location: Estates of Sunnybrook / Photography: Simply Lace Photography / Vintage Rentals: Southern Charm Vintage Rentals / Flowers: Fete Boutique Floral + Events / Cakes and sweets: Sinfully Sweet Co. / Calligraphy: Love Lettering

DIY Wedding Wednesday: Putting On The Glitz

Gold and glitter are a great way to elevate your wedding décor and take it to the next level. If you’re looking for ways to add some extra glitz and gold to your wedding, here are 10 gorgeous DIY ideas guaranteed to make your event sparkle.

1. Unity Candle Holders & Candles – DIY Gold Trim with Paper Bow

Dress up this candle ceremony even more by spray painting the base of the Taper Candles gold and adding an adorable paper bow to the central Unity Candle for an extra dimension. Transform these vintage inspired candle holders by simply adding a touch of gold paint to the edges.

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Featured here: Taper Candles / Unity Candle: Glitz & Glam / Pillar Candle Holder: Vintage Inspired / Taper Candle Holder: Vintage Inspired / Bow: Assorted Paper

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2. DIY Gold Glittered Pomander Chair Markers

You can get the look for these sparkly pomanders with a little glue and a lot of gold glitter! See the Step by Step to achieve the look here.

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3. Bow Tie Table Numbers – DIY Gold Bow Tie

These Bow Tie Acrylic Table Numbers are already dressed up, so why not add some gold paint to the bowtie to dress it up even more?

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4. DIY Gold Painted Woodland Animals

These assorted miniature woodland animals make the perfect addition to any woodland themed reception table and are a great wedding favor for your guests. Dress them up by spray painting them gold!

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5. Mini Favor Vases – DIY Gold Paint

Dress up these mini favor vases by masking off sections and spray painting with gold paint. The result is a unique pattern with a splash of gold to really glam them up!

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6. DIY Glittered Votive Holders

Gold glitter is an inexpensive way to give a sparkly boost to these votive holders. It’s as simple as applying glue to the rim of the holder and dusting them with glitter!

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7. Favor Boxes

These adorable favor boxes are super easy to mix and match to achieve a layered effect, with gold and black. Add a paper bow to the top to tie it all together. Fill with mints or your favorite candy!

Gold and Black Square Wedding Favor Boxes

Featured here: Favor Box: Black / Favor Box: Gold / Bow: Medium Paper / Tag: Mint To Be

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8. Gold Shimmer Die Cut Hearts

These shimmery Double Heart Cards are the perfect finishing touch for your table décor, and add that extra touch of gold, without the extra effort. Impress your guests by perching them on the rim of wine glasses.

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9. Vintage DIY Gold Frame

This vintage frame, originally in white, can be glammed up to really catch the eye of your guests with a wash of gold paint. It is a fantastic display prop for your ceremony or reception that can be used to highlight photos and cards.

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Featured Above: Frame: Vintage Inspired / Wax Seals: Double Heart / Clips: Mini Wooden

10. DIY Mini Mason Jar Overhang

This DIY mini mason jar overhang will add a whimsical touch to your special day. Adding glitter and personalized cards to the jars will set this aerial display over the edge. Follow these Step by Step directions to help get the look, and add your own personal flair.

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DIY Wedding Wednesday: Gold Glittered Pomander Chair Markers

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It was around this time two years ago that I discovered a little DIY secret that would forever change my creative repertoire. I now use it in my wedding designs, home accents, greeting cards, and just about everything else I embark on creatively. That little secret is glitter, gold and beyond, and ever since I realized how it could be added to just about anything to majorly up the pretty factor, I’ve been hooked. There’s no detail safe from my glitter addiction and after checking out today’s post, chances are you may quickly join the shimmer squad. Here’s how to use the golden good stuff to create some seriously sparkly chair markers.

The Supplies

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The Step by Step

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Step 1: pour out a generous amount of fine gold glitter onto your work surface. Make sure to first line your surface with a layer of paper towels. The porous nature of the towels will aid  to ease the application of the glitter. Next, using a thin tipped paint brush, begin to apply a thin layer of Mod Podge to the tips of the wooden curls of your pomander ball. Avoid too heavy an application of glue as it’ll result in clumpy glitter. Start out the glitter application to half of the pomander, doing so in sections of approximately 5-6 floral curls at a time.

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Step 2: once the glue has been applied, roll the florals into the glitter and shake off access. Make sure you apply the glitter quickly after the glue application to avoid the glue drying up. If a spot has been missed, reapply more glue onto that spot specifically and roll in the glitter. Avoid overlapping already applied glitter with glue as it’ll result in a lumpy and patchy finish.

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Step 3: for floral centers that are not flush with the curls, apply glue to the center point and manually dust on the glitter. Continue steps 1-3 until half of the pomander is complete, then set aside to dry before working on the other side.

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Step 4: push hot glue in between a couple of the florals. Immediately after, using a small fine tipped tool, push through a piece of gold ribbon that has been fold in half, at the halfway point. Hold for a few seconds to set. Once dry, the pomander is complete. Repeat steps 1-4 for your other pomander.

The End Result

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xoxo.

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DIY Wedding Wednesday: How-To Update Tradition – The New Flower Girl Basket

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There are fewer things set to make an appearance at your wedding cuter than a sweet little flower girl. Think white chiffon tutu, bouncy blonde curls, and maybe even a pair of proper pixie wings. Finish off what’s bound to be sheer lovely by arming that cutie with a nontraditional option for her petal basket, fit perfectly to her look and your overall wedding day design. To help you brainstorm the possibilities best suited for you and your day, here are three options we’re currently going “ga ga” over, complete with a DIY to show you how to even further customize the look.

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Rustic Flower Girl Basket How-To – The Supplies

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The Step by Step

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Step 1: run a strand of ribbon through the wood veneer sign.

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Step 2: securely and tightly attach the tag to the basket, finishing it off with a bow to one side.

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Step 3: trim down the greenery and rose down to size and tuck them in behind the bow, intertwining them into the wires to help them hold. Make sure you leave enough stem to keep the florals in place, but make them short enough so that they tuck away neatly.

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