From our Brides: 4 Ways to be the Worst Wedding Guest of all Time

It is wonderful to be able to celebrate your new Mrs. status with friends and family, but sometimes the combination of large numbers, varied personalities and high emotions can cause a little bit of stress along the way. When these moments happen, there are three things we want to remind you of.  1) You cannot please everyone. 2) There is always a solution. And 3) You’re not alone. We asked our brides to weigh in with their own personal experience dealing with difficult wedding guests.

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1) Dealing with the Narcissist:

“When family members who have conflict with each other make the day about them and their issues.” – Sarah Beth

If you have found yourself in this situation, we promise that you are not the first. Emotions and adrenaline are at an all time high at most weddings and this can sometimes cause tension. When diffusing a situation keep in mind that you want to make it better and not worse. If you let your emotions get the better of you. things will only escalate. With a level head and a calm voice, politely remind them why they are here today. Your wedding is a celebration of your relationship and it is OK to remind them of that.

2) Runaway guest list: “I can invite anyone I want to your wedding, right?”

Asking the morning of my wedding if you could bring your daughter, when you didn’t even bother to send your RSVP. And RSVP-ing for 3 when your invite specifically said to Mr and Mrs your name there.” — Michelle Flowers

There are 2 types of guests: 1) There was an unintentional miscommunication and your guest didn’t realize who exactly was invited. or 2) Your guest disregarded your wishes and didn’t think  a plus one was a big deal.

It is so important to be clear who the invitation is intended for. If you don’t feel like the names on the addressed envelope are clear enough, feel free to write the names out on their RSVP Card as well. This should help alleviate any miscommunication. If your RSVP mishap lands in the second category, ask yourself if it is a big deal. Do you have the space and the budget to have them there? Is it more of an annoyance than an inconvenience? If having extra person at your wedding is something you can deal with, consider letting it go and moving on. If having them there is not possible, a conversation is a great place to start. Explain to them that unfortunately you do not have any wiggle room with the guest count and although you wished more could attend, it is not possible at this time. And remember that asking is often more effective than demanding.


3) Dealing with the Flake:

“We had a groomsmen back out the week of the wedding and then one of them “forgot” he was in the wedding all together.” — Ginny Raettig

Although situations like this are incredibly frustrating, they can often be the easiest to resolve. Many couples feel that it is really important to have an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. We are here to tell you that it is totally O.K to have an uneven bridal party. When you initially decided who you wanted to stand up with you, it was probably because they have been a key part of your life. Don’t feel pressured to find a replacement just for the sake of having a replacement. Sometimes the best solution is to let it go.


4) Head Count:”RSVP’s are just a suggestion, right?”

“Not RSVP-ing or saying I don’t know yet but trying….” — Jamie Wieber

It can be as simple as asking your guests to send an RSVP email or click a button on your wedding website, but hunting down RSVP stragglers is just a part of the wedding planning process. That being said, there are a few ways to make it a little easier on yourself. A handy trick is to set the “please reply by:” date a few weeks before you really require a final head count. This will give some of the stragglers extra time to get their replies in and downsize the number of people you need to track down later.

Your day is about one very important thing, getting to say “I DO”. We know that planning a wedding comes with it’s up’s and down’s, but despite the fuss, it’s going to be worth it! We are so excited to be on this journey with you and helping to put those beautiful elements into your day. We know it’ going to be spectacular!

“None it was my day and everyone put all there problems aside and made it all about me my husband and six kids.” — Stephanie Hodgins



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Happy Valentine’s Day: Our Little {Wedding} Gift to You

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It’s Valentine’s Day and we’re celebrating our love for all our followers, readers, customers and industry friends. We’re doing it by sharing some exciting news! As many of you may have noticed, we’ve been undergoing some major changes at Weddingstar over the last several months. We’ve completely redesigned the look of our newsstand publication, added some incredible new decorative wedding accessories to our lineup and most recently changed the look of our blog. It’s all in line with our mission to improve the wedding planning experience and we’re not done just yet!

That Little Gift We Promised.

To ensure we’re doing all that we can for our brides and loyal followers, we’ve decided to completely revamp the content on our blog. From here on in we will be providing our readers with all the wedding planning essentials every bride needs to know, including insider tips on how to “make it yours”.

From wedding theme inspirations…

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to color & theme story boards…

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{photo credits, from left to bottom right:rachel ashwell shabby chic via pinterest, lifeimages photography, via pinterest, oscar de la renta via}

to some amazing DIY posts (new post every Wednesday!)… 

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We’re certain you’ll love all the details we have in store for you! With that, we leave you with tons of Happy Valentine’s Day wishes. Enjoy your personal celebrations and we’ll see you back here on Monday with the first official post from our brand new series.



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Today is another glorious Fashion Friday – and this week’s is ready to get you glammed up for the weekend (and for your wedding of course!). It’s my pleasure today to be able to share amazing tips for the most gorgeous eyes you’ve ever had from International Makeup Artist, Lucy B. That’s right, the renowned founder of Lucy B.’s Apothecary is here today sharing her best tips and tricks to have amazing eyes at your wedding and beyond. Get ready to learn all the tricks of the trade that are sure to make you look and feel beautiful! Enjoy!

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Behind the Veil: Historic Uses and Modern Day Veil Notions

Steeped in tradition and persisting from ancient origins, the wedding veil is one of the most important pieces on a bride’s shopping list. Once used to shield the bride from evil spirits (yikes!), today’s veil choices are more about fashion than the Underworld – but that doesn’t mean the decision on what veil to wear is free of it’s own trials and tribulations! From lengths to layers and everything in between, shopping for a veil can be a harrowing experience. But, today we’re taking the mystery out of the veil buying process by sharing our fashion tips for veil lengths that’ll fit your style and work fantastically on your wedding day!

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