Wedding How-to: Pulling off the Mismatched Bridesmaid Look

Are you thinking about mixing things up with your bridal party style? The common fear is how it will all turn out for pictures. Every bride wonders: “What if it doesn’t work and looks like a jumbled mess?” We promise that by following a few of these tips, you can create a fun and stylish look for your girls. Once you decide which direction you want to go, we will show you how to pull it all together!

Guided Freedom:

As tempting as it may be to provide your girls with every and any possibility, it is important to give them a few guidelines. You may think that keeping the dress requirements completely open is making it easier for them, but often it is the opposite. Your girls want you to be happy and get what you want for your wedding day. It can often be more stressful for them to try and guess. There are three main elements to consider when deciding on dresses: Fabric, color and style. Pick 1 or 2 elements that you would like to remain the same, and allow your girls to run with the rest. This will ensure your looks stays cohesive, but has some flair.

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Color me pretty:

Mixing up the colors is a fun way to add some flair to your bridal party. You have a few options here so the first step is to decide how.

1) Mixed color palette. Find some colors that fit together well by placing swatches together. The trick here is to keep your hue consistent. For example: if you are hooked on a pastel pink swatch, keep the remaining choices in the pastel family.

2) Shaded: Changing each bridesmaid dress by a shade or two can create a very interesting look for your bridal party. To pull this look off, you will need to find a gown with a fabric that is available in many colors. Start with 1 color that you love and start to work into a darker or lighter shade. It is that simple!

The long and the short of it:

When the wedding arrives, your bridesmaids will create a beautiful and elegant frame for you and your new husband. Different dress length can often be distracting to the eye and pull the focus from the couple. There are many ways to play with the mismatched bridesmaid look, but when it comes to hem length, we suggest picking just one.

The Mini-Mismatch:

Mixing up your bridesmaid style doesn’t have to mean everything is completely different. Even something as simple as different shoes, bouquets or jewelry can give your girls an opportunity to show off their personalities.

When putting together your bridesmaid style, there really are no rules. All you have to do is play with the options. Put fabrics, color and styles together until you are completely happy with the end result. Mismatching your girls is all about breaking the rules. So go ahead, be fearless!

From our Brides: 4 Ways to be the Worst Wedding Guest of all Time

It is wonderful to be able to celebrate your new Mrs. status with friends and family, but sometimes the combination of large numbers, varied personalities and high emotions can cause a little bit of stress along the way. When these moments happen, there are three things we want to remind you of.  1) You cannot please everyone. 2) There is always a solution. And 3) You’re not alone. We asked our brides to weigh in with their own personal experience dealing with difficult wedding guests.

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1) Dealing with the Narcissist:

“When family members who have conflict with each other make the day about them and their issues.” – Sarah Beth

If you have found yourself in this situation, we promise that you are not the first. Emotions and adrenaline are at an all time high at most weddings and this can sometimes cause tension. When diffusing a situation keep in mind that you want to make it better and not worse. If you let your emotions get the better of you. things will only escalate. With a level head and a calm voice, politely remind them why they are here today. Your wedding is a celebration of your relationship and it is OK to remind them of that.

2) Runaway guest list: “I can invite anyone I want to your wedding, right?”

Asking the morning of my wedding if you could bring your daughter, when you didn’t even bother to send your RSVP. And RSVP-ing for 3 when your invite specifically said to Mr and Mrs your name there.” — Michelle Flowers

There are 2 types of guests: 1) There was an unintentional miscommunication and your guest didn’t realize who exactly was invited. or 2) Your guest disregarded your wishes and didn’t think  a plus one was a big deal.

It is so important to be clear who the invitation is intended for. If you don’t feel like the names on the addressed envelope are clear enough, feel free to write the names out on their RSVP Card as well. This should help alleviate any miscommunication. If your RSVP mishap lands in the second category, ask yourself if it is a big deal. Do you have the space and the budget to have them there? Is it more of an annoyance than an inconvenience? If having extra person at your wedding is something you can deal with, consider letting it go and moving on. If having them there is not possible, a conversation is a great place to start. Explain to them that unfortunately you do not have any wiggle room with the guest count and although you wished more could attend, it is not possible at this time. And remember that asking is often more effective than demanding.

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3) Dealing with the Flake:

“We had a groomsmen back out the week of the wedding and then one of them “forgot” he was in the wedding all together.” — Ginny Raettig

Although situations like this are incredibly frustrating, they can often be the easiest to resolve. Many couples feel that it is really important to have an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. We are here to tell you that it is totally O.K to have an uneven bridal party. When you initially decided who you wanted to stand up with you, it was probably because they have been a key part of your life. Don’t feel pressured to find a replacement just for the sake of having a replacement. Sometimes the best solution is to let it go.

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4) Head Count:”RSVP’s are just a suggestion, right?”

“Not RSVP-ing or saying I don’t know yet but trying….” — Jamie Wieber

It can be as simple as asking your guests to send an RSVP email or click a button on your wedding website, but hunting down RSVP stragglers is just a part of the wedding planning process. That being said, there are a few ways to make it a little easier on yourself. A handy trick is to set the “please reply by:” date a few weeks before you really require a final head count. This will give some of the stragglers extra time to get their replies in and downsize the number of people you need to track down later.

Your day is about one very important thing, getting to say “I DO”. We know that planning a wedding comes with it’s up’s and down’s, but despite the fuss, it’s going to be worth it! We are so excited to be on this journey with you and helping to put those beautiful elements into your day. We know it’ going to be spectacular!

“None it was my day and everyone put all there problems aside and made it all about me my husband and six kids.” — Stephanie Hodgins

 

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How long will I need? – Your Guide to Timing your Wedding Day

Wondering how you will fit everything into your wedding day? We have a way to customize your timeline and create a solid plan.

Start with your wedding ceremony. Once you have a set start time, work backwards to create an outline for your wedding. Every wedding runs on a different time line, you can use this as a guide to bring the overall vision for your day to life. Once you have a general idea of what your timeline will look like, make sure you speak with your vendors. They are the pros and have done this many times. They will have a really good idea of how much time they will need to help create your perfect wedding day.

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Hair and Makeup

A general rule of thumb for most hairstylists is 1.5 hours for the bride and 45 minutes for a bridesmaid. Talk to your girls about their hair in advance and get a couple of key pieces of information. Will your hair be staying about this length when the wedding rolls around? Will you be doing it up or down? By answering these 2 questions for each bridesmaid, your hairstylist will be able to provide you a more exact schedule for the morning of the wedding.

Most makeup artists will typically set aside 40-50 minutes for a bride and 25 -40 minutes for a bridesmaid. A  good question to ask your bridesmaids in advance is: Will you be wearing false eyelashes? As these take a bit more time to apply than regular mascara.

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The Ceremony

A great starting point for your wedding ceremony is about 20-25 minutes. A wedding of this time-frame would include the following: Procession, opening words, a reading from a loved one, exchange of traditional vows, exchange of the rings, signing of the wedding licence, first kiss and the recession. If someone will be singing or you are having a unity sand ceremony, it is important to you than make sure to include that extra time in the traditional ceremony outline. Remember to speak to your officiant about time when you are planning the ceremony for the most accurate estimate.

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Photos

Make sure to meet with your photographer for a consultation closer to the wedding. This is a wonderful opportunity to get to know them a little better, review times, addresses and a few shoot locations before the big day. Talk about a list of family photo combinations (ex: Bride’s parents with Bride and Groom. Brides parents with Bride, Groom and Siblings etc.) Your photographer will be able to call out the names and your family photos can be done in record breaking times! Once you have gone through the details of the day with your photographer, ask him/her for a time estimate. Keep in mind that you may need to cut out a location, or adjust a few things.

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The Reception

It is a good idea to set aside 1 hour for dinner. This will vary depending on the number of guests, and style of service (buffet/table service), but this is where your Master/Mistress of Ceremonies are going to be very important. They can keep an eye on things and once things start to settle down and everyone has eaten, they will be able to get things rolling for the program and speeches. If you are worried about how much time the speeches and toasts will take, just mention it in advance. Provide the speakers with a set time to keep their toast within. 3-5 minutes per speaker is a great starting point. It is very important that your Master/Mistress of Ceremonies are kept in the loop. Provide them with the plan for the evening so that they can keep their eyes on the clock and make sure everything moves along smoothly.

Here are some of our favorite tips to help you stay on time:

1) Delegate: If you’ve hired a wedding planner, they will be extremely helpful in moving the day along and sticking to the schedule. But don’t worry. You don’t need a wedding planner to stay on time. Speak to a reliable member of your bridal party or family member about helping in this area. If you provide them with the day-of schedule and ask them to help move things along, they will be able to keep an eye on the clock and make sure no one loses track of time.

2) Prioritize: Ask yourself “what is the most important part of the day?” Is it the photography? Is it having some alone time with your new husband? Once you have answered this question you will have a good idea of where to prioritize your time. It is also a really good idea to schedule in an extra 15 or 20 minutes for your most important item. Which brings us to our next tip!

3) Leave yourself a little wiggle room: Even the most organized of wedding days will often have a few unexpected surprises. The good news is that if you plan for them, they won’t be a problem. There are 2 ideal times to leave some”buffer space”. #1 is before the ceremony and #2 is after the ceremony. Leaving yourself an extra 20 – 30 minutes is sure to keep you on schedule and keep your guests happy.

 

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Light Up your Wedding

Lighting is so important when it comes to setting the mood. Candles and twinkle lights are usually the traditional choice when it comes to lighting up your wedding. You all know how much we love to add our twist on the traditional. Well, we have done it again! We are lighting up the blog with these incredibly cute LED lights. They come in many styles so they will fit any wedding theme. Plus, they are battery powered, so you can use them almost anywhere. This is one of our favorite décor accessories for 2015 and we know you are going to love them too.

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Drape from your ceiling, table or displays. You can even lay them directly on your table to accentuate your centerpieces. These Mini LED lights are a huge must have for any wedding theme. So go ahead! Light up your wedding!

 

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DIY Wedding Wednesday: Centerpiece How-To

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When the idea for this post came up, truth be told, I panicked a little. Although I love flowers (I mean, what girl doesn’t?!) and have pulled together many arrangements in my day, I always advise (where budget allows) to never DIY your florals. But let’s face it, when budgets are factored in not everyone has the luxury of working with a floral designer. So to all you ladies feeling brave and looking to stretch your dollar without compromising an ounce of pretty, this blog’s for you!

The Supplies

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  • good pair of shears
  • floral foam (to fit whatever vase you decide to use)
  • flowers, in order of appearance: lisianthus, astilbe, queen anne’s lace, spray roses, seeded eucalyptus and sedum

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The Step by Step

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Step 1: saturate your floral foam with water and place into your vase. Begin to build your floral arrangement creating a starting point for your two front facing corners. Make one over flowing with eucalyptus and the other tighter to the center with queen anne’s lace.

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Step 2: continue to build your arrangement by adding another overflow on the opposite corner to the original and begin to fill out your middle with a blend of sedum and lisianthus.

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Step 3: continue to fill in your arrangement, adding in astilbe. Start to concentrate on your arrangement as a whole, paying attention to all angles.

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Step 4: add in spray roses. as you work on filling your arrangement make sure to fill all gaps and keep a mix of flowers throughout the whole.

The End Result

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You could stop right here but for a fuller table arrangement (and some added decor), finish off the look with a couple of votive holders filled with a few floral stems, as well as some candlelight.

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Centerpieces Simplified.

If you’re all about DIY’ing your centerpiece but want something a little less labor intensive, check out our Decorative Bottle Vases and Springtime Centerpieces posts.

xoxo.

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Product Spotlight: Tailored Table Numbers

There are wedding ‘nice to haves’ and then there are wedding ‘must haves’. And it’s the couples that pay close attention to ensure every single ‘must have’ is personalized to their specific wedding day design that create weddings that wow. Take something as simple as table numbers for example. Every single wedding needs them and while most venues provide a standard in-house set, a swap for a custom option results in a finishing touch that will not go unnoticed. To get your upgrading underway, we’re sharing a few creative ways to mark your tables, with options that span the entire budget spectrum.

 

How About a Little DIY?

For another ultra versatile table number concept visit us right here for a simple paper table number with a bit of DIY.

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Wedding Planning Essentials: The Reception Checklist

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If there’s one thing that’s essential to a successful wedding planning process it’s the habit of keeping lists. There are just way too many elements that go into planning a wedding to attempt winging it as you go or working from memory. Try it and you’re sure to get lost in all the details. Luckily there are plenty of monthly planning checklists readily available online  to help you work through the process. What’s harder to come by is a comprehensive list of the essentials you need to source to pull off the big party. But not to worry. We’ve got you covered! Here’s the rundown of the basics you need to consider for your wedding reception, along with some on trend examples of each. Happy Planning!

The Essentials Checklist:

  • Seating Chart, Escort Cards or Place Cards
  • Table Numbers
  • Guest Book and Pen
  • Wishing Well
  • Cake Topper
  • Cake Serving Set
  • Toasting Flutes

Seating Plan

Unless you’re having a very small and intimate dinner party style reception, a seating plan is a must. Guide your guests to their seats with either a creative seating chart fit to theme or beautifully displayed escort cards. Take it one step further by assigning seating at each table with the use of a place card in a lovely little holder.

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featured here: custom seating chart created using the open ornate vintage inspired frame and diy escort cards

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featured here: diy escort cards created using burlap wrap by the roll and miniature ornate hanger clips

Table Numbers

A well thought through seating plan is for nothing without a well marked table. Most venues provide a standard table number option you can use, but check with them to make sure. To elevate the look consider using a custom table number, fit perfectly to your event design.

Guest Book

Some traditions are well worth keeping. Create an instant wedding keepsake by incorporating a guest book into your reception where all who attend can leave their permanent mark and well wishes.

Wishing Well

Want the sentimental keepsake offering a guest book provides but looking for a bit more creativity in the display? If so consider a uniquely designed Wishing Well where guest’s notes are marked on custom cards.

Cake Topper and Serving Set

Finish off your beautiful cake with an equally gorgeous cake topper. Pick something that either represents you as a couple, or go for something fit to theme. And remember a cake knife and server set for the sweet tradition of the cake cutting.

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Toasting Flutes

Don’t forget one of the best reigning wedding traditions, the toasting of the two of you as the new Mr. and Mrs. Pick a stylish set of flutes that you’ll enjoy time and again after the big day.

Ready to Shop?

If you’re ready to get your reception essentials shopping started, we’ve compiled everything you see here (and more) into an easy to shop checklist. You can download your copy right here and when you’re ready visit the Reception section of weddingstar.com for 100s of accessory options.
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xoxo.

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Wedding Planning Essentials: Introducing {Inspired by Color}

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I seem to be excited a lot these days. And a great deal of that is because of all the new creative content I’ve had the pleasure of pulling together for the revamped ‘The Details’ wedding blog. And today is no different. Today marks the start of sharing custom color story boards, boards that are meant to get your creative juices flowing as you plan your own personal wedding design. Pulling together seemingly unrelated elements that combine to tell a story that inspires emotion is a creative activity that I adore. So yet again, I’m very excited!

Inspired by this first for the blog, I’ve selected a spring palette to kick things off. Featuring calm taupes and subtle greys to reflect the quiet awakening of life all around, and soft pinks and mint greens to represent the prettiness of the transition from winter to spring, this c0lor story is all about new beginnings.

 

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3 Easy Steps to a Simple {and Enjoyable} Wedding Planning Experience

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If wedding statistics are correct and December is in fact the most popular month to get engaged, I have a feeling there are a lot of brides out there right now, iPads in hand, magazines laid out, and brows furrowed, not knowing where to begin the oh so daunting wedding planning process. If you’re one of those brides then this post should not be missed! What follows is a breakdown of the planning process into three key steps, paving the way for an easy and enjoyable wedding planning experience.

Wedding Planning – Step 1: Start with You.

The best place to begin your planning journey is with you (and your groom of course!). Consider your personal styles and the things that appeal to you most. From fashion, to favourite colors, even your home décor, basing your wedding design on who you are will make the planning process a natural one.

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Wedding Planning – Step 2: Go Big. Then Get Serious!  

The start of the planning process is where you want to take the opportunity to soak in all the possibilities. Start with the big picture and using all available wedding planning resources, print magazines, Pinterest, even other brides, pull together every single idea that catches your eye. But only allow yourself to do so for a few weeks. Then it’s time to get serious!

Pouring over all the options you’ll very quickly find repeating design concepts and color palettes. When you do, commit to the things that pull you in most and set aside those that, although lovely, muddle things up. It’s a big world of inspiration out there, with plenty of options. Committing to your wedding design early on avoids a lot of unnecessary stress.

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Wedding Planning – Step 3: Refine and Personalize.  

Now that you know what you want there’s nothing stopping you from going after all the little details you need to pull your wedding design together. Start the sourcing, booking and buying early on. It’s the details that infuse you and your hubby-to-be into the event. They personalize your wedding in such a way that it can only be yours. The last thing you want to do is leave these essential details to the end of your planning process.

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That’s it. It’s really that simple. No Step 4! That doesn’t mean that the planning process isn’t a big time investment that requires commitment. But if you approach it the right way from the start, your wedding planning journey is guaranteed to be an incredible one.

If you love what you’ve seen here and want to make it yours, visit the vintage theme section of the Weddingstar website to shop the entire look.

xoxo.
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Contemporary Vintage Wedding Inspiration: Pearls and Lace

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, we wanted to kick off the celebrations and help you channel your inner romantic with a sneak peek of our Pearls and Lace styled wedding feature. Dripping in pearl accents, lace details, natural lighting and a romantic color palette, we promise this feature will have your heart melting in no time. Continue reading