How Much Does It Cost To Be A Bridesmaid?

It is an honor to be asked to be a bridesmaid, but how much will it actually cost you? When you factor in every possible cost, from the dress to the bachelorette party to the wedding itself, it can be surprisingly expensive. Here’s our bridesmaid’s budget breakdown to keep your stress levels low and keep your friendship with the bride intact.

Bridesmaid Budget Breakdown

It’s tempting to feel so flattered you jump at the opportunity but if cash flow is a problem and the bride is not a very sharing person you may want to consider the costs to you before you accept. Here is what can be involved in being a bridesmaid:

  • Bridesmaid dress
  • Dress alterations if needed (these could work out even more if you’re pregnant too!)
  • Shoes, jewelry and any other accessories the bride requires you to wear
  • Professional hairdressing and
  • Professional make up on the morning of the wedding
  • Bachelorette Party spending money
  • Wedding rehearsal dinner spend if required
  • Travel to dress fittings, bachelorette party, wedding rehearsal and/or travel abroad if required
  • Wedding present for the bride and groom

Hundreds and Thousands

This list is not exhaustive but it gives a pretty good idea of what’s involved and could come in at anywhere between a couple of hundred dollars and several thousand. A wedding abroad could cost even more due to overseas travel and accommodation, so it is worth taking all the potential costs into account. If the bride does want you to pay, it could work out to be more expensive than you think.

Who Pays and How To Compromise

Traditionally the bride’s parents would cover the costs of the bridesmaids dresses but these days most couples pay a large proportion of their wedding costs themselves and it has become more acceptable to ask for financial contributions from the bridal party. Unless the bride and groom are offering to pay for everything, it’s worth discussing costs and coming to a compromise where you are all happy.

If your little girl is asked to be a flower girl you may be expected to pay for her outfit. Luckily she won’t need cash for the bachelorette party so it’s a lot less expensive than being a bridesmaid, but you may still be asked to pay for her shoes and accessories.

How To Cut Bridesmaid Costs

Assuming the bride is in agreement, you can cut costs substantially by wearing a second hand bridesmaid gown, an informal low cost summer dress you can wear again, or even a dress you already own. For fashionably non-matching bridesmaids you can save cash by choosing low-cost gowns that co-ordinate in similar colors or styles.

It often falls to the maid of honor to arrange the bride’s proverbial ‘last night of freedom’, and another way to cut costs is to organize a low-key bachelorette party in a venue that is local to you or a casual bridal shower at home which can be just as much fun as an expensive night out in the city or a weekend abroad.

And finally, don’t ever let it cost you your friendship. There will always be a compromise and the key is to discuss it all and be mindful of everyone involved. The bottom line is the bride is special to you and she wants you to be a part of her special day. Together you should be able to find a way for that to happen.

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Originally written by Kate Thompson-Confetti

Top 10 Mistakes Brides Make When Planning Their Wedding

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We are surrounded by the most beautiful couples and weddings all year long, and after more than 30 years in the business we’ve learned a few things along the way! This top 10 list is a must read and a must share for brides who are beginning to plan their wedding.

1. Announcing the engagement too soon

Technology and social media make it very tempting to spill the beans early on, but it might be a good idea to resist the urge. Telling your close friends and family in person and seeing each of their reactions can be the most exciting part. Not only is it more fun for you and your husband-to-be, but your inner circle will really appreciate that you took the time to tell them personally.

2. Choosing bridesmaids out of obligation

There are many reasons why as a bride you may choose certain people to be a part of your big day. Make sure that you pick yours for the right reasons. Logic like, “She asked me to be a part of her wedding first” or “I just don’t want to hurt her feelings by not asking her” might cause you some regret down the road. Do what makes you happy first and foremost.

3. Choosing the venue before considering your guest list

In the excitement of the initial wedding planning, it is easy to forget some of the finer details. Remember that your venue has to fit your circle of friends and family that will be celebrating with you. Jot down a rough list of names you are considering inviting. That will give you a rough idea of the size of venue you will require.

4. Not confirming your wedding plans with your vendors

Make sure you touch base with all your vendors before the big day. Confirm addresses, times and package details with them to make sure everyone is on the same page. This could help prevent mishaps and mix-ups on the big day!

5. Having a closed mind when dress shopping

It is always great to go into your dress appointment with a few ideas, but don’t count anything out just yet. Ask your bridal consultant for some suggestions and try on as many styles as you can. You just might be surprised about what style fits your body type best.

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6. Forgetting to leave wiggle room in your budget

Try as you might, it can be hard to stay true to your budget. Hidden costs and last minute things are very likely to sneak up on you. Leave a miscellaneous costs column in your budget for some of these details. This way you can make sure all your vendors are paid on time and you won’t be filled with that dreadful feeling in your stomach wondering how you will ever pay for it all.

7. Forgetting to schedule time to visit with guests

Your wedding day is going to be a busy one, but it is important to set some time aside for a receiving line or to visit each table. Even a short visit will mean a lot to your guests. After all, they did come to celebrate with you!

8. Ruling out the idea of a wedding planner of day of coordinator

It is easy to tell yourself, “I can do it all myself” or “I would never be able to afford one”, but don’t rule it out too quickly. Do you find that you get stressed easily? Are you organized enough to handle all the details? Are there a lot of elements that will need to come together? Does my venue have an on-site coordinator? Answering these questions will help you decide if you need a little extra help. These professionals will often help keep things running smooth and create an enjoyable, stress-free experience.

9. Failing to loop everyone in

Your bridal party and parents are going to play a big part in how smoothly or how chaotic your wedding weekend goes. If you fill them in on any important changes, locations and information, you will save yourself the headache. Jot down a few of the important details and send a document to everyone a few weeks before the wedding. Include addresses, phone numbers and important point people. This will ensure everyone gets to where they need to be, when they need to be there and that any important jobs you have assigned are clear.

10. Forgetting to eat

With all the butterflies and excitement, food and water are likely to be the last thing on your mind. But make sure your force yourself to have a few light snacks throughout the morning. Also consider having a few snack platters prepared for your bridal party after the ceremony. It is easy to get caught up in the fun and photos, but the afternoon will be much more enjoyable if everyone is well fed and happy.

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So, You’re A Bridesmaid! Check Out Our Top 5 Cost Sharing Tips

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Your friend just got engaged and in turn has popped the question, Will you be my bridesmaid?”, wanting you to be part of her wedding day. You’re flattered (of course) and excited to be a part of her special day, but you start to stress out a bit when you begin adding up the costs. Being a bridesmaid can definitely be pricey, but there are some things you can do to help save some cash.

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Featured above: Gold Toggle Charm Bracelet with Gemstone Charm

We’ve got some great tips to relieve you and the other bridesmaids!

1. Group Gift

On top of all the other wedding expenses, including the dress and shoes and throwing parties typically a bridesmaid is still expected to give the new couple a gift.  Wedding gifts can definitely be a hit to your bank account, but why not lessen the cost a bit? Go in on a gift for the couple as a group with the other bridesmaids. This way you can chip in together on a higher priced item from the registry rather than trying to figure out something less expensive or spending more than you can afford on a gift.

2. Share a Suite

Hotel rooms can be expensive, especially if you need to stay for more than one night. Split the cost with the other bridesmaids by booking a suite that sleeps four people.

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3. Car Pool

If it’s not quite a destination wedding, but you and the other girls live outside of the location that the wedding is being held at, arrange to share a ride! Road trips are fun and is a great way to bond, especially if you are just getting to know a couple of the gals. You’ll save money on gas and have a great time!

4. Share Travel Costs

If you’re attending an upcoming destination wedding, consider group travel. Most airlines offer group discounts that could save you hundreds of dollars. Coordinating group travel might take some extra effort, but if it saves you some cash in the end, it’s definitely worth it!

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Featured above: Bathrobes: Mr & Mrs / Towels: Mr & Mrs / Sandals: Just Married

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5. Group DIY Projects

DIY projects are a fun way to help give every shower you throw the look of a high budget, meanwhile it’s a great excuse to get all the bridesmaids together and save a little cash! Enjoy some wine and snacks and whip up some amazing favors and décor. We’ve included some DIY projects that we think you’ll love! For décor we have tons of DIY ideas for adding gold and glitter to to glam things up. We also have some great favor ideas like Ombre Dip Dyed Favor Bags and Mini Mason Jar Favors.

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Can being a bridesmaid be pricey? Yes. But we hope these tips will help you out a bit and save you some cash.

DIY Wedding Wednesday: Pretty Packages for Your Bridesmaids

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Couple weeks back we shared our two pennies on how to pop the big “will you be my bridesmaid” question to your BFFs and it all went something like this, “Make it sparkle. Make it pretty!”. If you missed the post, check it out {here}. And because we’re total girly girls, we got so caught up in all the fun that we decided to come up with a couple more super sweet ways to show your besties you adore them and can’t see your big day going off without them. And just like with our last post, making it sparkly and pretty was the direction of choice.

Message in  a Bottle

Go for the surprise factor and forgo the usual boxed presentation for a non traditional container that’ll throw her off of what’s inside, a darling monogrammed pendant necklace. And, we love this little glass corked bottle, made all that much more lovely with a touch of lace filler.

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featured here: mini glass bottle

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What You’ll Need

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Serious {Card} Stock Value

Every girl loves getting a sweet greeting card. Up the value of yours by pairing it with a little bit of bling by way of this gorgeous double heart pendant. And if you’re feeling really festive, pair the presentation with some gold glitter!

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featured here: new celebration design bridesmaid gift backer card and new heart pendant necklace – coming soon!

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xoxo.

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DIY Wedding Wednesday: How-To Pop the Big Question (To Your BFFs)

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He popped the big question. You hollered out an enthusiastic “YES”! The champagne was poured and so now you’re off to the planning board. And what’s one of the first things you’re likely to quickly decide on? The girl crew who’ll stand by your side throughout the whole of your wedding planning  journey. It’s a list of names that will no doubt be made up of childhood friends and close family members, all of which are women you simply can’t live without. Why not take the opportunity to show them just how much they mean to you by making the way you pop your “will you be my bridesmaid” ask something extra special. And when we say special we mean pretty and sparkly of course. Sound like a plan? Then here’s everything you need to make it happen.

Presentation is Key

OK, so the bling is what’s best but don’t overlook how you present it. We’re loving the current trinket tray trend, made that much better when personalized just for her.

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Bring on the Bling

Diamonds maybe a girl’s best friend, but so are bracelets, and charms, and chains. Really, you can’t go wrong when it comes to the gift of jewelry.

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Let the Card Do the Talking

Complete the look, and the package, with a personalized gift tag that says it all, because chances are you’ll be too choked up to talk.

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will you be my bridesmaid tag – coming soon!

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will you be my bridesmaid tag – coming soon!

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xoxo.

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DIY Wedding Wednesday: Will You Be My Bridesmaid – 3 Creative Ways to Ask

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You could ask your girls if they’ll be your bridesmaids by making the simple ask. Or you could do it by way of a creative and thoughtful gift that shows them just how much their involvement in your big day means to you. We vote for the latter! Becoming a bridesmaid is a big commitment and we’re all for getting things started on the most positive of notes. Set the stage for a fun and exciting planning journey no one can say “no” to with one of these three lovely and creative ways to pop the big question.

The How-To #1: The Goodie Bag

What girl doesn’t love to be pampered! Ask your besties to stand by your side by treating them to some standard girlie comforts.

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What You’ll Need – The Supplies and The Details

1. The essential component is of course the bag. Select one that’s cute and compact, one that pops the question but can be used time and again.

2. A mini notebook that sets the stage for fun but organized planning.

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3. Luxurious hand and body balm to get her skin glowing.

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4. A pretty and useful treat she’ll appreciate always.

5. Some pink bubbly to mark the celebration. We went with a mini for the perfect fit and because it’s oh so cute!

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6. Bath salts to unwind after a long day of wedding planning.

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The How-To #2: On a Sweet Note

A great option if you know the emotion of the moment may get to you. Make it easier by letting a printed handkerchief do the talking.

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What You’ll Need – The Supplies and The Details

1. A personalized handkerchief that says just the right thing in just the right stylish way.

2. A peekaboo envelope that’s just as pretty a keepsake.

The How-To #3: Locket Love

Jewelry is the ultimate no-brainer. Go for an option that reveals your request in the loveliest way.

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What You’ll Need – The Supplies and The Details

1. The locket and your handwritten message on a piece of printed craft paper.

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featured here: filigree vine orb locket (box included)

2. Fabric ribbon to line your jewelry box for a pretty presentation that completes the look.

xoxo.

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Wedding Planning Essentials: Gifts for Her

Mother’s Day is just over a week away so naturally we’re in the mood to celebrate the incredible women in our lives. From bridesmaids to maids of honor, to super special moms, we love you all! And there’s no better way to show the ones we love how we feel about them then by showering them with little tokens of our admiration and appreciation. Here’s a rundown of some of our favorite ways to show you care.

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{stylist tip: for an added personal touch, have it engraved}

oval compact with crystals

featured here: oval compact mirror with crystals
{stylist tip: for an added personal touch, have it engraved}

crown compact mirror gift

featured here: “crown princess” compact mirror
{stylist tip: for an added personal touch, have it engraved}

diamond shaped paper weight

featured here: diamond shaped paper weight
{stylist tip: for an added personal touch, have it engraved}

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{stylist tip: use the included scent dots or fill with a personalized note}

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featured here: antiqued battenburg lace parasol
{stylist tip: great as a gift and as a picture prop. give this gift out on your wedding day to ensure some great pictures are captured of it in use}

Want More?

For plenty of other great gift ideas shop all the ‘gifts for her’ options on weddingstar.com.

xoxo.

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