From our Brides: 4 Ways to be the Worst Wedding Guest of all Time

It is wonderful to be able to celebrate your new Mrs. status with friends and family, but sometimes the combination of large numbers, varied personalities and high emotions can cause a little bit of stress along the way. When these moments happen, there are three things we want to remind you of.  1) You cannot please everyone. 2) There is always a solution. And 3) You’re not alone. We asked our brides to weigh in with their own personal experience dealing with difficult wedding guests.

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1) Dealing with the Narcissist:

“When family members who have conflict with each other make the day about them and their issues.” – Sarah Beth

If you have found yourself in this situation, we promise that you are not the first. Emotions and adrenaline are at an all time high at most weddings and this can sometimes cause tension. When diffusing a situation keep in mind that you want to make it better and not worse. If you let your emotions get the better of you. things will only escalate. With a level head and a calm voice, politely remind them why they are here today. Your wedding is a celebration of your relationship and it is OK to remind them of that.

2) Runaway guest list: “I can invite anyone I want to your wedding, right?”

Asking the morning of my wedding if you could bring your daughter, when you didn’t even bother to send your RSVP. And RSVP-ing for 3 when your invite specifically said to Mr and Mrs your name there.” — Michelle Flowers

There are 2 types of guests: 1) There was an unintentional miscommunication and your guest didn’t realize who exactly was invited. or 2) Your guest disregarded your wishes and didn’t think  a plus one was a big deal.

It is so important to be clear who the invitation is intended for. If you don’t feel like the names on the addressed envelope are clear enough, feel free to write the names out on their RSVP Card as well. This should help alleviate any miscommunication. If your RSVP mishap lands in the second category, ask yourself if it is a big deal. Do you have the space and the budget to have them there? Is it more of an annoyance than an inconvenience? If having extra person at your wedding is something you can deal with, consider letting it go and moving on. If having them there is not possible, a conversation is a great place to start. Explain to them that unfortunately you do not have any wiggle room with the guest count and although you wished more could attend, it is not possible at this time. And remember that asking is often more effective than demanding.

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3) Dealing with the Flake:

“We had a groomsmen back out the week of the wedding and then one of them “forgot” he was in the wedding all together.” — Ginny Raettig

Although situations like this are incredibly frustrating, they can often be the easiest to resolve. Many couples feel that it is really important to have an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. We are here to tell you that it is totally O.K to have an uneven bridal party. When you initially decided who you wanted to stand up with you, it was probably because they have been a key part of your life. Don’t feel pressured to find a replacement just for the sake of having a replacement. Sometimes the best solution is to let it go.

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4) Head Count:”RSVP’s are just a suggestion, right?”

“Not RSVP-ing or saying I don’t know yet but trying….” — Jamie Wieber

It can be as simple as asking your guests to send an RSVP email or click a button on your wedding website, but hunting down RSVP stragglers is just a part of the wedding planning process. That being said, there are a few ways to make it a little easier on yourself. A handy trick is to set the “please reply by:” date a few weeks before you really require a final head count. This will give some of the stragglers extra time to get their replies in and downsize the number of people you need to track down later.

Your day is about one very important thing, getting to say “I DO”. We know that planning a wedding comes with it’s up’s and down’s, but despite the fuss, it’s going to be worth it! We are so excited to be on this journey with you and helping to put those beautiful elements into your day. We know it’ going to be spectacular!

“None it was my day and everyone put all there problems aside and made it all about me my husband and six kids.” — Stephanie Hodgins

 

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DIY Wedding Wednesday: Pretty Packaging – Matchbox Favors Done 3 Ways

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Guest favors don’t have to be big and brilliant (read expensive) to wow your guests. All they really need is plenty of layers of lovely. Adding textures and details like lace ribbons, vintage charms and dried floral to any container, box or baggie, goes miles to impress guests with a thoughtful presentation that’s just as pretty, if not more so, than the trinkets inside. Need some visuals to get your started? Check out what our play on textures and colors did for one little white matchbox.

Look #1: Vintage Vibes

Some combinations make for undeniable classics. Mix delicate lace with a raw muslin ribbon and an antique key charm for a guaranteed vintage vibe.

The Supplies

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  • white matchbox paper favor box
  • 1.5″ wide strand of blue raw muslin ribbon and 1″ wide strand of white lace, to be used as the main / base box wrap.
  • thin strips of lace, raw muslin ribbon and white satin ribbon, to be added as layers on top of the base wrap
  • paper flower
  • glue gun, to secure all details in place
  • antique key charm  (attach to box with the thin strand of ribbon)

The Details

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Look #2: Rustic Elegance

Present traditionally rustic elements in soft pink hues for the perfect blend of the casual and the elegant.

The Supplies

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The Details

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Look #3: Sealed with Love

Add a sense of old world charm to your favor trim by incorporating a pewter wax seal as the finishing touch.

The Supplies

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The Details

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xoxo.

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How long will I need? – Your Guide to Timing your Wedding Day

Wondering how you will fit everything into your wedding day? We have a way to customize your timeline and create a solid plan.

Start with your wedding ceremony. Once you have a set start time, work backwards to create an outline for your wedding. Every wedding runs on a different time line, you can use this as a guide to bring the overall vision for your day to life. Once you have a general idea of what your timeline will look like, make sure you speak with your vendors. They are the pros and have done this many times. They will have a really good idea of how much time they will need to help create your perfect wedding day.

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Hair and Makeup

A general rule of thumb for most hairstylists is 1.5 hours for the bride and 45 minutes for a bridesmaid. Talk to your girls about their hair in advance and get a couple of key pieces of information. Will your hair be staying about this length when the wedding rolls around? Will you be doing it up or down? By answering these 2 questions for each bridesmaid, your hairstylist will be able to provide you a more exact schedule for the morning of the wedding.

Most makeup artists will typically set aside 40-50 minutes for a bride and 25 -40 minutes for a bridesmaid. A  good question to ask your bridesmaids in advance is: Will you be wearing false eyelashes? As these take a bit more time to apply than regular mascara.

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The Ceremony

A great starting point for your wedding ceremony is about 20-25 minutes. A wedding of this time-frame would include the following: Procession, opening words, a reading from a loved one, exchange of traditional vows, exchange of the rings, signing of the wedding licence, first kiss and the recession. If someone will be singing or you are having a unity sand ceremony, it is important to you than make sure to include that extra time in the traditional ceremony outline. Remember to speak to your officiant about time when you are planning the ceremony for the most accurate estimate.

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Photos

Make sure to meet with your photographer for a consultation closer to the wedding. This is a wonderful opportunity to get to know them a little better, review times, addresses and a few shoot locations before the big day. Talk about a list of family photo combinations (ex: Bride’s parents with Bride and Groom. Brides parents with Bride, Groom and Siblings etc.) Your photographer will be able to call out the names and your family photos can be done in record breaking times! Once you have gone through the details of the day with your photographer, ask him/her for a time estimate. Keep in mind that you may need to cut out a location, or adjust a few things.

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The Reception

It is a good idea to set aside 1 hour for dinner. This will vary depending on the number of guests, and style of service (buffet/table service), but this is where your Master/Mistress of Ceremonies are going to be very important. They can keep an eye on things and once things start to settle down and everyone has eaten, they will be able to get things rolling for the program and speeches. If you are worried about how much time the speeches and toasts will take, just mention it in advance. Provide the speakers with a set time to keep their toast within. 3-5 minutes per speaker is a great starting point. It is very important that your Master/Mistress of Ceremonies are kept in the loop. Provide them with the plan for the evening so that they can keep their eyes on the clock and make sure everything moves along smoothly.

Here are some of our favorite tips to help you stay on time:

1) Delegate: If you’ve hired a wedding planner, they will be extremely helpful in moving the day along and sticking to the schedule. But don’t worry. You don’t need a wedding planner to stay on time. Speak to a reliable member of your bridal party or family member about helping in this area. If you provide them with the day-of schedule and ask them to help move things along, they will be able to keep an eye on the clock and make sure no one loses track of time.

2) Prioritize: Ask yourself “what is the most important part of the day?” Is it the photography? Is it having some alone time with your new husband? Once you have answered this question you will have a good idea of where to prioritize your time. It is also a really good idea to schedule in an extra 15 or 20 minutes for your most important item. Which brings us to our next tip!

3) Leave yourself a little wiggle room: Even the most organized of wedding days will often have a few unexpected surprises. The good news is that if you plan for them, they won’t be a problem. There are 2 ideal times to leave some”buffer space”. #1 is before the ceremony and #2 is after the ceremony. Leaving yourself an extra 20 – 30 minutes is sure to keep you on schedule and keep your guests happy.

 

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DIY Wedding Wednesday: DIY Gone Glam – How to Accessorize White Acrylic

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If you’re one of those brides or grooms who think that DIY is strictly for the homespun at heart, get ready for a game changer! Granted, there was a time when DIY was catered towards those looking to do-it-themselves to make it sweet and on a dime, but things have come a long way since then. Now DIY is more about “designing” it yourself, personalizing the various wedding day details like only you can, making them unique to you. It’s about using traditional crafting techniques and applying them in new unique ways, to things that may have previously never been considered as candidates for the creative. Enter today’s how-to post, featuring decorative contemporary white acrylic products and the three ways we upgraded their designs. Here’s how to make the look yours, applicable to any acrylic product you like.

Color Me Pretty

Love the sleek look of white acrylic but in the mood for a splash of color? Bring the best of both worlds together with a pretty paint palette and a floral stencil.

The Supplies

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  • white acrylic table number 
  • floral stencil and fine tip paint brush
  • premium all purpose paint in lilac, pale pink, lemon yellow and olive green

The Look

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Sparkle and Shine

A little bling is never a bad idea! Add a touch of the opulent to your modern acrylic pieces by subtly accessorizing them with iridescent jewel stickers.

The Supplies

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The Look

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All That Glitters

For major impact that still highlights an acrylic piece’s modern design, go for an all over face lift by covering the piece with a dusting of gold glitter.

The Supplies

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The Look

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xoxo.

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DIY Wedding Wednesday: Pretty Paper Garland How-To

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OK. So I think I can now officially say that I’ve got somewhat of a little obsession with paper. But not just any kind of paper. The kind that can be used to create little decorative details that instantly up the pretty factor on whatever they’re applied to. Couple that concept with scale, of the miniature kind, and I’m a happy girl! So when I was presented with the request to figure out a few ways to feature one of Weddingstar’s newest decorative trims, the mini white paper garland, I sprang to the challenge with glitter and spray paint in hand! Here are three of my favorite ways to put this petite paper trim to work.

The Supplies

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For Look #1 – The Overhang 

For Look #2 – Favor Trim 

For Look #3 – Invitation Trim 

Look #1: Center of Attention

Take the presentation of any set up, greeting, cake or favor table, to the next level by framing it with this pretty paper overhang. Be sure to hang your garlands at various heights and depths for best visual impact.

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Look #2: Glittered Gifts

Make your guest favor containers just as special as the gifts inside by trimming them with a touch of sparkly glitter.

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Look #3: Layered Goodness

Set the stage for an event packed with fabulous details by adding an extra layer of lovely to your invitation suite.

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xoxo.

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Take our Quiz: What is your Wedding Style?

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Every bride wants their wedding to be a unique reflection of their personality and style. Find your flair with this wedding style quiz. What kind of bride are you?

DIY Wedding Wednesday: Springtime Wedding Tabletop

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There’s just something about the spring season that makes it the ideal time for a wedding. Whether it be all the lovely floral varieties available in pretty pastel shades, or the overall heartwarming sense of new beginnings that the season brings with it, springtime and weddings simply go hand in hand. And after a long, and very (very!) cold winter, we are more than ready to indulge in the enjoyment of plenty of seasonal prettiness, starting with today’s how-to feature. Here’s how to pull together the perfect springtime tabletop for your wedding day, your bridal shower, or just because!

What You’ll Need – The Accessories

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What You’ll Need – The Guest Favor

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The Look

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xoxo.

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5 Ways to Make Your Wedding Even More Meaningful

Every wedding is special and personal in its own way. And it is obvious that your wedding day is already going to be one of the most special and meaningful days of your lives. You are marrying your best friend, afterall! But we have a few ideas that might just take your wedding one step further. Here are 5 ways to make your day even more meaningful.

1) Introduce the bridal party yourselves

There are probably a few reasons that you asked your bridesmaids and groomsmen to stand up with you at your wedding. Each of them holds a special place in your lives. Rather than having your MC tell your guests what they mean to you, try telling them yourselves. Sharing a fond memory or how you became friends is even more special if it comes straight from you.

2) Having a loved one sing or play at your wedding

Music plays a huge role in weddings. Ask a friend or family member to play an instrument or sing a special song to bring you down the aisle, while your guests are arriving or while you sign your wedding license. It will be equally as special for them as it is for you and will create a special memory for you to look back on.

3) Have family time before the big day

If you ask any married couple, they will agree that the wedding day goes by incredibly quickly. Take some time to do something fun with your friends and family before the wedding day. Your out of town guests will appreciate the extra time with you and it is a great way for friends and family to meet before the big day.

4) Toast each table individually

The receiving line is a tradition that we are seeing less and less of. One of our favorite variations is to visit each table during the reception. Once dinner is starting to wind down there is usually some time before the speeches begin for you to make a loop with your new husband. By stopping at every table, it ensures that you will get a little bit of time with all your guests. It is a wonderful opportunity to personally thank them for coming and celebrating with you. It will mean a lot to your guests to be able to have some time with you and there are sure to be some good laughs along the way.

5) Unity sand ceremony

While a candle ceremony is beautiful and traditional, it leaves no permanent keepsake for the couple. The sand ceremony allows you to retain the memory of their special day for years to come. Combining the sand symbolizes the present and future  of two lives joined and forever inseparable. Every ceremony creates a different sand design that is unique like you as a couple. You can even personalize your vases and containers for an even more meaningful touch.

These 5 little touches are sure to create special moments that you will cherish for years to come! But, the best advice we can give you is to remember to keep it all in perspective. It is so easy to get swept up in the excitement and wedding plans that sometimes you just need to take a little step back. You are getting ready to celebrate the next chapter in your life as husband and wife. If you can remember WHY you are planning a wedding, that will be more meaningful than anything.

DIY Wedding Wednesday: Mini Bottle Vase Overhang

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Picture this. It’s your wedding day, the day you’ve been waiting for your whole life, and everything is absolutely perfect. You’ve got your guy (or girl) by your side, your dress is a stunner, the music is playing, the champagne is flowing, and above your head table a whimsical floral-filled aerial display marks your spot center stage. Do you love it? Then make it yours with today’s DIY mini bottle vase feature! Here’s how to get the look.

The Supplies

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  • two wooden poles (length dependent on how large you’d like your overhang. Our poles were each 40″ long.)
  • mini clear glass bottles (number dependent on the length of the overhang, Our overhang took 11 bottles.)
  • fabric ribbon
  • clear string (illusion cord or fishing line) and floral tape
  • a variety of dainty blooms and ivy

The Step by Step

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Step 1: wrap your poles with fabric ribbon, securing them at the ends with either glue or bridal pins. Once complete attach them to a couple of rigging points with fishing line, about  inches 20″ apart, with the back hanging slightly higher than the front. We used 2 standard ceiling hooks for each pole for our rigging points.

Tip: Before committing to this concept make sure you can execute it at your wedding venue. Ask if existing rigging within the ceiling exists.

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Step 2: add a base of ivy to your poles, securing it with floral tape. At this stage you aren’t looking to cover the poles completely, only to give yourself a starting point, while leaving room to work in the hanging of the mini bottles.

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Step 3: start hanging the bottle vases, attaching them to your poles with fishing line. Begin by creating a starting point for yourself, hanging a few in front and a few in back, all at various heights.

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Step 4: continue hanging the bottles, filling in the spaces between and around those you used as your starting points, all the while keeping with a mix of heights. To avoid a messy look, as you go be mindful to avoid overlapping the front and back bottles. Continue until you’ve reached your desired density.

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Step 5: complete the look by adding flowers and water to the vases, and by filling in your ivy. When working in the additional pieces of ivy, strategically intertwine the vines to cover up as many of the points at which you taped as possible.

The Details

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Trending Now: Aerial Displays For Your Wedding

When it comes to decorating your wedding, the ceiling may not be the first thing you think about. But it may not be the last, either. Making use of the ceiling to hang decorations has become a popular trend in the wedding industry over the past few years, and we can’t get enough of these gorgeous aerial displays! The ceiling offers a unique blank canvas that you can transform to fit with the rest of your wedding day design, and it will be sure to add even more ambiance to your wedding or event.

We’ve rounded up some of our favorite aerial display tutorials that show you how you to create your own beautiful display. But first, our expert stylist shares her “Tips to Creating Your Own Overhang”. Click on each picture below to read the full post.

Are you planning on including a ceiling overhang at your wedding? Tell us below! And be sure to check back next Wednesday for another beautiful aerial DIY using our Mini Glass Bottles.

Morgan