From our Brides: 4 Ways to be the Worst Wedding Guest of all Time

It is wonderful to be able to celebrate your new Mrs. status with friends and family, but sometimes the combination of large numbers, varied personalities and high emotions can cause a little bit of stress along the way. When these moments happen, there are three things we want to remind you of.  1) You cannot please everyone. 2) There is always a solution. And 3) You’re not alone. We asked our brides to weigh in with their own personal experience dealing with difficult wedding guests.

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1) Dealing with the Narcissist:

“When family members who have conflict with each other make the day about them and their issues.” – Sarah Beth

If you have found yourself in this situation, we promise that you are not the first. Emotions and adrenaline are at an all time high at most weddings and this can sometimes cause tension. When diffusing a situation keep in mind that you want to make it better and not worse. If you let your emotions get the better of you. things will only escalate. With a level head and a calm voice, politely remind them why they are here today. Your wedding is a celebration of your relationship and it is OK to remind them of that.

2) Runaway guest list: “I can invite anyone I want to your wedding, right?”

Asking the morning of my wedding if you could bring your daughter, when you didn’t even bother to send your RSVP. And RSVP-ing for 3 when your invite specifically said to Mr and Mrs your name there.” — Michelle Flowers

There are 2 types of guests: 1) There was an unintentional miscommunication and your guest didn’t realize who exactly was invited. or 2) Your guest disregarded your wishes and didn’t think  a plus one was a big deal.

It is so important to be clear who the invitation is intended for. If you don’t feel like the names on the addressed envelope are clear enough, feel free to write the names out on their RSVP Card as well. This should help alleviate any miscommunication. If your RSVP mishap lands in the second category, ask yourself if it is a big deal. Do you have the space and the budget to have them there? Is it more of an annoyance than an inconvenience? If having extra person at your wedding is something you can deal with, consider letting it go and moving on. If having them there is not possible, a conversation is a great place to start. Explain to them that unfortunately you do not have any wiggle room with the guest count and although you wished more could attend, it is not possible at this time. And remember that asking is often more effective than demanding.

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3) Dealing with the Flake:

“We had a groomsmen back out the week of the wedding and then one of them “forgot” he was in the wedding all together.” — Ginny Raettig

Although situations like this are incredibly frustrating, they can often be the easiest to resolve. Many couples feel that it is really important to have an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. We are here to tell you that it is totally O.K to have an uneven bridal party. When you initially decided who you wanted to stand up with you, it was probably because they have been a key part of your life. Don’t feel pressured to find a replacement just for the sake of having a replacement. Sometimes the best solution is to let it go.

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4) Head Count:”RSVP’s are just a suggestion, right?”

“Not RSVP-ing or saying I don’t know yet but trying….” — Jamie Wieber

It can be as simple as asking your guests to send an RSVP email or click a button on your wedding website, but hunting down RSVP stragglers is just a part of the wedding planning process. That being said, there are a few ways to make it a little easier on yourself. A handy trick is to set the “please reply by:” date a few weeks before you really require a final head count. This will give some of the stragglers extra time to get their replies in and downsize the number of people you need to track down later.

Your day is about one very important thing, getting to say “I DO”. We know that planning a wedding comes with it’s up’s and down’s, but despite the fuss, it’s going to be worth it! We are so excited to be on this journey with you and helping to put those beautiful elements into your day. We know it’ going to be spectacular!

“None it was my day and everyone put all there problems aside and made it all about me my husband and six kids.” — Stephanie Hodgins

 

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How long will I need? – Your Guide to Timing your Wedding Day

Wondering how you will fit everything into your wedding day? We have a way to customize your timeline and create a solid plan.

Start with your wedding ceremony. Once you have a set start time, work backwards to create an outline for your wedding. Every wedding runs on a different time line, you can use this as a guide to bring the overall vision for your day to life. Once you have a general idea of what your timeline will look like, make sure you speak with your vendors. They are the pros and have done this many times. They will have a really good idea of how much time they will need to help create your perfect wedding day.

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Hair and Makeup

A general rule of thumb for most hairstylists is 1.5 hours for the bride and 45 minutes for a bridesmaid. Talk to your girls about their hair in advance and get a couple of key pieces of information. Will your hair be staying about this length when the wedding rolls around? Will you be doing it up or down? By answering these 2 questions for each bridesmaid, your hairstylist will be able to provide you a more exact schedule for the morning of the wedding.

Most makeup artists will typically set aside 40-50 minutes for a bride and 25 -40 minutes for a bridesmaid. A  good question to ask your bridesmaids in advance is: Will you be wearing false eyelashes? As these take a bit more time to apply than regular mascara.

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The Ceremony

A great starting point for your wedding ceremony is about 20-25 minutes. A wedding of this time-frame would include the following: Procession, opening words, a reading from a loved one, exchange of traditional vows, exchange of the rings, signing of the wedding licence, first kiss and the recession. If someone will be singing or you are having a unity sand ceremony, it is important to you than make sure to include that extra time in the traditional ceremony outline. Remember to speak to your officiant about time when you are planning the ceremony for the most accurate estimate.

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Photos

Make sure to meet with your photographer for a consultation closer to the wedding. This is a wonderful opportunity to get to know them a little better, review times, addresses and a few shoot locations before the big day. Talk about a list of family photo combinations (ex: Bride’s parents with Bride and Groom. Brides parents with Bride, Groom and Siblings etc.) Your photographer will be able to call out the names and your family photos can be done in record breaking times! Once you have gone through the details of the day with your photographer, ask him/her for a time estimate. Keep in mind that you may need to cut out a location, or adjust a few things.

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The Reception

It is a good idea to set aside 1 hour for dinner. This will vary depending on the number of guests, and style of service (buffet/table service), but this is where your Master/Mistress of Ceremonies are going to be very important. They can keep an eye on things and once things start to settle down and everyone has eaten, they will be able to get things rolling for the program and speeches. If you are worried about how much time the speeches and toasts will take, just mention it in advance. Provide the speakers with a set time to keep their toast within. 3-5 minutes per speaker is a great starting point. It is very important that your Master/Mistress of Ceremonies are kept in the loop. Provide them with the plan for the evening so that they can keep their eyes on the clock and make sure everything moves along smoothly.

Here are some of our favorite tips to help you stay on time:

1) Delegate: If you’ve hired a wedding planner, they will be extremely helpful in moving the day along and sticking to the schedule. But don’t worry. You don’t need a wedding planner to stay on time. Speak to a reliable member of your bridal party or family member about helping in this area. If you provide them with the day-of schedule and ask them to help move things along, they will be able to keep an eye on the clock and make sure no one loses track of time.

2) Prioritize: Ask yourself “what is the most important part of the day?” Is it the photography? Is it having some alone time with your new husband? Once you have answered this question you will have a good idea of where to prioritize your time. It is also a really good idea to schedule in an extra 15 or 20 minutes for your most important item. Which brings us to our next tip!

3) Leave yourself a little wiggle room: Even the most organized of wedding days will often have a few unexpected surprises. The good news is that if you plan for them, they won’t be a problem. There are 2 ideal times to leave some”buffer space”. #1 is before the ceremony and #2 is after the ceremony. Leaving yourself an extra 20 – 30 minutes is sure to keep you on schedule and keep your guests happy.

 

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Take our Quiz: What is your Wedding Style?

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Every bride wants their wedding to be a unique reflection of their personality and style. Find your flair with this wedding style quiz. What kind of bride are you?

Trending Now: Aerial Displays For Your Wedding

When it comes to decorating your wedding, the ceiling may not be the first thing you think about. But it may not be the last, either. Making use of the ceiling to hang decorations has become a popular trend in the wedding industry over the past few years, and we can’t get enough of these gorgeous aerial displays! The ceiling offers a unique blank canvas that you can transform to fit with the rest of your wedding day design, and it will be sure to add even more ambiance to your wedding or event.

We’ve rounded up some of our favorite aerial display tutorials that show you how you to create your own beautiful display. But first, our expert stylist shares her “Tips to Creating Your Own Overhang”. Click on each picture below to read the full post.

Are you planning on including a ceiling overhang at your wedding? Tell us below! And be sure to check back next Wednesday for another beautiful aerial DIY using our Mini Glass Bottles.

Morgan

 

 

 

 

Choosing a Wedding Theme That’s Right for You

There are so many elements that go into planning a wedding and one of the most important (and fun) ones is choosing a theme. But with so many options out there, it can sometimes be a bit overwhelming. Our advice? Choose a style that complements your personal style as a couple. And if there isn’t just one, combine details from different themes until it matches the vision you have for your wedding. Because at the end of it all, it’s your day and you need it to be perfect for you.

The first step to choosing a theme is to explore different ideas and swoon over gorgeous wedding inspiration. Sounds tough, right? To help get you started, we’re highlighting seven of the most popular wedding themes that our brides can’t get enough of. Click on each one to see the entire inspiration gallery, and pin the pieces you love to start building your own wedding day design.

1. Bohemian

Barefoot, unpretentious, ethereal and stunning. This wedding look highlights traditional boho concepts and infuses them with a hint of the luxurious.

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Love this? Visit the entire Bohemian Gallery to be inspired and find out if this is the look for you.

2. Rustic

Rustic weddings never go out of style. The combination of weathered wood, tarnished metals and sweet, homespun touches have us swooning with delight.

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Love this? Visit the entire Rustic Gallery to be inspired and find out if this is the look for you.

3. Vintage

An elaborate layering of vintage elements and tactile fabrics combine with modern day influences to create a fresh take on the always beautiful and romantic vintage wedding style.

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Love this? Visit the entire Vintage Gallery to be inspired and find out if this is the look for you.

4. Industrial

With a sleek interior design influence at its core, the bold, confident, mature and modern Industrial look is urban sophistication perfection.

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Love this? Visit the entire Industrial Gallery to be inspired and find out if this is the look for you.

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5. Shabby Chic

Shabby Chic is about the appearance of a balance between the tossed at whim and the perfectly placed. From the hair, to the shoes, to all the things that come in between, the key is to make it all appear effortlessly natural for an end result that is drop dead gorgeous.

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Love this? Visit the entire Shabby Chic Gallery to be inspired and find out if this is the look for you.

6. Woodland

The Woodland look is all about embracing and celebrating natural beauty, from the bride to her bouquet, down to every last design detail.

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Love this? Visit the entire Woodland Gallery to be inspired and find out if this is the look for you.

7. Wanderlust

With its beautiful airy ambiance and romantic personalized elements at every turn, it’s difficult not to get lost in all the dreamy details that make up this look.

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Love this? Visit the entire Wanderlust Gallery to be inspired and find out if this is the look for you.

Before you choose your favorite, be sure to check out even more wedding theme ideas in our Inspiration Galleries, right over here.

Morgan

Let us know which you look you love! Tell us your faves in the comment section below.

Wedding Theme Inspiration: Romantic Pink

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The warm pairing of pastel pink and lush gold. The feminine influence of vintage charms. Candlelight glow and floral table runners. These design details are what you’ll find at the core of our latest wedding theme inspiration, Romantic Pink. Influenced by what’s at the heart and center of every wedding, true romance, the aim of this theme is to do little more than honor and celebrate the beauty of love. With classic wedding elements at its base, and easily executable any time of year, Romantic Pink has long been a natural choice for many.

Here’s a closer look at what goes into this distinctive theme and what you need to make it yours.

The Design – Vintage Influence

Tarnished gold and aged finishes. Trinket boxes and grandma’s teacups. If it’s vintage it’ll have a home here.  Weave authentic pieces throughout your entire wedding day design with modern day pieces that have a definitive vintage influence. Keep with a classic wedding feel by hosting a traditionally formal affair, taking your design from a mere theme to a full blown experience for you and your guests.

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featured here: custom seating chart made using a vintage door, vintage lace design large rectangular tags, acrylic decorative drops and pink satin ribbon

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The Colors

Give pink a sophisticated makeover by pairing it with lavish gold. For a truly refined look make gold and creams your primary palette colors, with pink playing the role of accenting hue, adding pops of interest. And where possible, incorporate candlelight into your set up, enhancing the warmth brought to the design by your color selection.

Love It? Want More?

See more romantic pink wedding ideas, along with 100+ other pink wedding inspiration pics, on weddingstar’s pink wedding pinterest board.

xoxo.

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Dress Up Your Desktop With Pretty Wedding Inspiration!

Because Valentine’s day is just around the corner (and it’s Friday), today we have some oh-so pretty treats for you. We have turned some of our gorgeous wedding photography into wallpapers that you can download for your desktop or phone! Just click on your favorites to download them (for free!) and be inspired by pretty wherever you go.

If you love these and want to see more, let us know in the comments below!

The Inspired Wedding Book Giveaway Winner

Monday is here which means our book giveaway of “The Inspired Wedding” by Emma Arendoski of Emmaline Bride has come to a close. And we are proud to announce that the lucky winner is Lorrie Everitt! Congratulations Lorrie! And a big thank you to everyone who entered. If you didn’t win but still want to grab your own copy, click here to get yours today.

5 Inspiring Ideas for a Beach Themed Wedding Reception

Well our third and final Friday is upon us with Emma Arendoski of Emmaline Bride as our guest. She has shared some of her great ideas for beach weddings from her new book, The Inspired Wedding, these past few weeks and today’s post is no exception! Be sure to check out last week’s post where you can enter to win a copy of her book, The Inspired Wedding, full of great theme-based ideas and inspiration.

Last week, I shared some of my favorite ideas for a memorable beach-themed wedding ceremony. Today, I’m back to share with you more inspiring ideas for what’s likely to be the grandest party you’ll ever host: your wedding reception. Where to begin? My recommendation to couples is to outline the parts of the reception — the location, the seating arrangements, the food and drink, the cake, the music, the dancing, the after-the-reception activities, and the wedding favors — and then determine those that are most important to you. If you narrow it down in this way, I guarantee you won’t feel overwhelmed!

I’ve chosen five of my favorites to talk about here, let’s begin with the location.

Beach Themed Wedding Reception Location

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1. The Reception Location

There are several options for a wedding reception at the beach. You could host an outdoor event right on the beach with a tented area (be sure to include a rental of port-a-johns!), which is perfect if there’s a chance of inclement weather. There may be a restaurant, country club, or banquet hall nearby that you could rent, or if you plan to be married in a park, there’s often somekind of structure that can be rented.

Beach Themed Wedding Reception Location

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Another suggestion is to have your reception at a beach house, which can be just a short walk from your ceremony right on the beach. A beach house – I’ve stayed at one in North Carolina’s Outer Banks, for example – can be rented by the weekend or week and often they can house many guests (like your entire wedding party), depending on its size. That option can be a very good one as it will have an equipped kitchen and bathroom facilities.

Don’t forget plenty of outdoor lighting, a big dance floor, and lanterns lighting the way for a moonlit walk on the beach.

2. Where to Eat?

When guests enter your reception area after the ceremony, greet them with a table of assorted drinks and a place for them to find their table and their seat assignment. I recommend assigned seating for a couple of reasons: It’s easier to seat people with other guests bearing similar interests and, it’s a great way to ensure certain guests have a seat closer to the head table (like your parents, grandparents, siblings, etc.). If your choice is to have this type of seating, then you’ll need escort cards, which are a whole lot of fun. I love these beach chairs from Weddingstar as an escort display.

You can also have a place card ready to greet each guest’s seat, like these cards placed in coral holders (also from Weddingstar).

3. Food and Drink

On your reception menu, include seaside choices, as well as options for those who don’t eat either fish or shellfish. Some of my favorites include fish as an entrée option or shrimp cocktail and crab cakes as appetizers. Bring out the best of the beach with delightful drink options such as Mai-Tais, Pina Coladas, or Blue Hawaiian cocktails. Consider adding a signature cocktail to your offerings, and have decorative drink stirrers at the ready.

Beach Wedding Drink Menu

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4. Cake

A beach-themed cake is a must-have at your reception! Your cake is one easy place to go all-out with embellishments. Some of my favorite finds include brown sugar crumbled on top to resemble sand, colorful flowers made from fondant and borrowed from the bride’s bouquet, or faux seashells to line the tiers of the cake.

A themed cake topper ties the whole look together. Here is one from Weddingstar which features a couple lounging on the sand. The bride is even drawing a heart!

Weddingstar Beach Wedding Starfish Cake Topper

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5. Favors

Finally, you’ll want to send your guests home with a small token of your appreciation in the form of a favor. A beach-themed favor is easy to find, and I especially love these choices from Weddingstar. I saw a handful of cute ideas on their site including starfish-shaped photo frames, wood trinket boxes for seashells, starfish shaped candles, or a bottle topper with coral on the end, just to name a few.

Any of these would be perfect favor ideas for your reception. To see the full collection of beach or nautical themed wedding favors by Weddingstar, click here.

You’ll find more suggestions including centerpieces, décor, guest book alternatives, and more in my book, The Inspired Wedding. Look for the Beach Bliss chapter for everything you need for a beach-themed wedding. And if you missed it last week, be sure to check out this post to enter the giveaway to win a copy of The Inspired Wedding (but hurry because the contest closes this Sunday!).

Wedding Planning Essentials {Inspired by Color}: Waiting to Bloom

The holiday season is behind us. The new year is officially in full swing. Festivities are no longer a regular weekly occurrence, and so we’re sitting by (not so patiently) waiting for the next big thing to spice up our day to day. That big thing for us is a new season, calendar and wedding. Spring can’t come soon enough, bringing with it the gradual unveiling of the latest in warm weather real weddings. New brides and grooms will hit the scene, with fresh takes on the world of love and pretty, and we can’t wait to see it all. In anxious anticipation of the impending marvels the warmth and color baring season promises to bring, we can’t help but start to share our favorite color palette picks for an inspired springtime affair. In desperate need of the bright and the bold, our first seasonal board is aptly infused with daring and striking shades of pink, coral and lemon yellow, representing all the beauty that’s just “Waiting to Bloom”.

Want More?

For more color combo options, come get inspired with all our color stories on Weddingstar’s Wedding Color Inspiration Pinterest board.

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